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 Is It A Sin to Fall in Love?

Is falling in love a sin in Islam? If it is, why has Allah given this emotion to us and forbidden it?

Answer:

Falling in love is not a sin

Loving and falling in love are not sin. “The ability to love” is one of the emotions that Allah (swt) has bestowed upon humanbeing; however the important matter is that:
Before all else, the One who deserves to be loved indeed is Allah (swt) who has bestowed upon us both the ability to love and our loved ones.
Allah (swt) has created strong feelings (love) between humanbeings, particularly the spouses. It is commanded in the Quran that:
“He it is Who did create you from a single soul, and therefrom did make his mate that he might take rest in her…” (Surah al-Araf, 189)
“And of His signs is this: He created for you helpmeets from yourselves that ye might find rest in them, and and He has put love and mercy between your (hearts): verily in that are Signs for those who reflect. (Surah al-Rum, 21)

The feeling of loving the opposite sex has been given humanbeings to use for the spouses

The feeling of loving an opposite sex has been given only to spend for spouses. Allah (swt) informs us in the aforementioned ayahs that He will put love between spouses who get married in a halal way. However, if a person loves his wife just on behalf of his nafs, like only for her beauty or for certain benefits, in that case this love will disappear.
There is an innate tendency in the human nature toward the opposite gender and as a result of this tendency, love for the opposite sex may occur. Actually this result mostly occurs because of being in an environment that leads to haram relations. In this condition, the person who falls in love should either get married in the closest time as Islam approves or, if there is no opportunity or possibility to get married, he should preserve his/ her purity, keep chastity and keep away from committing a sin. In other words, the love felt for a haram person does not render it halal to have relations with her/ him.

There is a great reward in keeping chastity despite being in love

About this issue Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) stated that:
“Who fell in love and kept chastity and died for concealing his love is considered to be a martyr.”
If it is considered that there is no loftier rank in Islam than the rank of martyrdom, the viewpoint of Islam on love is obviously understood.
It is narrated that;
“Allah (swt) forgives the sins of who conceals his love, remains chaste and endures; and He (swt) places him in jannah.”
That’s to say, there is a great reward in Islam for keeping chastity, being patient to avoid committing a sin because of love; because, since love makes blind, it is difficult for a person who fell in love to restrain from sins. However, the reward for achieving the difficulties is always greater.
It is narrated in a hadith that;
“The superior of my ummah are those who keep chastity when they are exposed to the trouble of love.” (Daylami)
As understood from the hadiths, it is essential for a person to keep chastity even though the emotion of love has started to dominate him. Kaynak: http://askaquestionto.us - Is It A Sin to Fall in Love?

Another question about this topic:

wait wait "A person who conceals his love and lives in chastity is a martyr". ummm...if a man loves a woman, they get married and then have sex it is allowed and rewarded as far as i understand. Case#2: They loved each other but did not marry, they would be martyrs. what is allah telling us,to marry or not to? also what are your thoughts about love between men. i am talking gay. Kaynak: http://askaquestionto.us - Is It A Sin to Fall in Love?

Answer:

Dear user,

Since Islam shields mankind from all wrongful actions, He recommends people to marry to guard their chastity. The recommendation of marriage is obvious in the hadiths and ayahs:

"O young people! Whoever among you can marry, should marry, because it helps him lower his gaze and guard his modesty and whoever is not able to marry, should fast, as fasting diminishes his sexual power." (Sahih Bukhari; Nikah; 4)

“And of His signs is this: He created for you helpmeets from yourselves that ye might find rest in them, and and He has put love and mercy between your (hearts): verily in that are Signs for those who reflect. (Surah al-Rum, 21)

Surely, Allah (swt) will be pleased with a Muslim who is abstaining committing sin and as mentioned in the hadiths, the best way to guard your purity is to get married. However, what if a Muslim wants to get married, but he does not have the opportunity to do that and moreover if he has strong feelings like being in love, what will he do? Is he allowed to commit sin? Right in this case, our prophet (pbuh) tells him to protect his modesty despite its hardship and tells him the good news that he will be rewarded for his struggle:

“The superior of my ummah are those who keep chastity when they are exposed to the trouble of love.” (Daylami)

It is clear that, Allah (swt) is pleased with a Muslim who gets married to keep his purity and He (swt) recommends those who are not able to marry to guard their chastity.

As to homosexual relations, it is totally forbidden in the Quran:

"Of all the creatures in the world, will ye approach males, And leave those whom Allah has created for you to be your mates? Nay, ye are a people transgressing (all limits)! They said: "If thou desist not, O Lut! thou wilt assuredly be cast out!" He said: "I do detest your doings:" "O my Lord! deliver me and my family from such things as they do!" So We delivered him and his family,- all Except an old woman who lingered behind. But the rest We destroyed utterly. We rained down on them a shower (of brimstone): and evil was the shower on those who were admonished (but heeded not)! Verily in this is a Sign: but most of them do not believe. And verily thy Lord is He, the Exalted in Might, Most Merciful." (Surat al Shuara, 165-175) Kaynak: http://askaquestionto.us - Is It A Sin to Fall in Love?