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Can a Man Forbid His Wife Taking Education and Make Her Leave the School?
What should a woman do if her husband forbids her education?
Islam approves gentle attitudes among the family
Islam is a religion revealed to provide the pleasure of both this world and the hereafter. As for the worldly pleasure of an individual depends on two conditions, one is the personal peace and the other is the social peace; Islam includes rulings about both. Islam wants man to be careful about the rights of other people so that social peace could be provided.
For the family being the keystone of the society, Islam approves the most positive, gentle, affirmative and favorable attitudes among the members of the family; especially between the spouses.
Like for all good manners, the Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) is the most excellent example as a father and a husband. He was very kind, tolerant and gentle to his family and advised everyone else to be kind to them.
Narrated Anas ibn Malik: "I have never seen anyone more kind to one's family than (the Prophet Muhammad)." (Sahih Muslim, Hadith 1077)
Narrated Al-Aswad bin Yazid: I asked 'Aisha "What did the Prophet use to do at home?" She said, "He used to work for his family, and when he heard the Adhan (call for the prayer), he would go out." (Sahih-i Bukhari; Volume 7, Book 64, Number 276)
"The most complete believer in faith is the best in morals, and the best among you is the best to their women." (Tirmithi)
What if a woman makes serious mistakes?
If a woman makes mistakes that take her into haraam (unlawful deeds according to Islam), of course her husband must do something to protect her against dangers of both this world and the hereafter. It’s his main duty and responsibility as a husband.
“O ye who believe! Ward off from yourselves and your families a Fire whereof the fuel is men and stones…” (Surah at Tahrim, 6)
“Allah the All Mighty is going to question each ruler about the ones he rules over; whether he did justice to them or not? Such that, He (swt) is going to question him even about the members of his family.” (Bukhari)
When a woman is in a situation of committing haram, the first thing her husband should do is to warn her. His warning should be in a gentle, explanatory and convincing way. Because strict, oppressive and harsh interventions cause bigger problems which Islam does not approve. Her husband’s warnings and reactions must be to find solutions, not to cause new ones. For these warnings are for the sake of Allah, he has the right to interfere her wife. And she must be sensitive and understanding considering it is the command of Allah; not a personal desire of her husband.
What if a man forbids her wife from something that is not haram?
But if a woman is in a situation that her husband does not approve although it is not haram, her husband shouldn’t force her and be strict, either. Forcing her for his personal wishes may damage the love and respect between the spouses and give harm to the family peace which a Muslim husband must avoid.
The essential duty of a woman is to obey her husband, as long as this obedience doesn’t lead disobedience to Allah
However, if the man is determined and always insisting on his personal wishes although it is not an Islamic issue, then woman should choose the best way to maintain family peace and be obedient to his husband. Even she does not agree with her husband, obeying him will provide the unity of the family which Allah (swt) will be most pleased with. She is not responsible for her husband mistakes and she gains thawab(reward given by Allah for good deeds) for being self-sacrificing.
“If a woman prays her five (daily prayers), and fasts her month (the month of Ramadan) and protects her private parts, and obeys her husband, it is said to her (on the Day of Judgment): enter Paradise from any door you want.” [Imam Ahmad, Imam Tabarani]
“Men are in charge of women, because Allah hath made the one of them to excel the other, and because they spend of their property (for the support of women). So good women are the obedient, guarding in secret that which Allah hath guarded. “ (Surah an Nisa, 34)
“Can a man forbid his wife taking education and make her leave the school?”
We shall interpret this question in two different ways: Is it a school or education that forces a Muslim woman to leave the commands of Islam and take her to haram; or not? Does it hinder her from performing her Islamic life style and obeying the commands of Allah; or not? For her education, does she have to take off her hijab? If the answer of these questions is “yes”, then her husband must admonish her; but in a gentle and kindly way as possible as he can, for he is responsible for guarding her from worldly and otherworldly dangers. He must do it, because he is responsible for her deeds.
However, if she will not give up any Islamic rules and commit haram due to her education, then it is upon the decision of two spouses. It’s their common responsibility to make the best decision for the bliss of their family and their children. If her education won’t hinder her from bringing up her children, giving them a good education, taking care of her house and if her husband agrees about her education, then she can go to school and take education. But, if her husband does not agree with her, her going to school may cause family problems and destroy the pleasure of family which a woman should avoid which Islam does not approve.
Regarding a mother’s essential duty to bring up both psychological and physiological healthy generations, it will be better for her to make the best decision for her family; even it is an obedience she dislikes. She had better choose the peace in her family which will bring the peace of the society.
Briefly, the essential point for spouses is to maintain the peace of their family by obeying the commands of Allah; that’s how they can reach the happiness of two worlds. Kaynak: http://askaquestionto.us - Can a Man Forbid His Wife Taking Education and Make Her Leave the School?